Being able to Love and Appreciate

Being able to Love and Appreciate

Life Transitions/Life Purpose
I have been studying and working to embody the state of non-attachement and it is HARD because it is the OPPOSITE of everything we've been told, showed, and taught within this society. The idea of being able to love and appreciate without a need for perceived ownership or attachment is stretching! However, I love it! It offers an opportunity for such peace, empathy, and understanding for the reality that the only permanence is impermanence! By being non attached we allow the space for the people in our lives to grow, shift, and change as need be. That goes for our children, mates, friends, etc.. And it also allows us to accept if that growth leads us to diverging paths and to be able to release from a place of gratitude…
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The first is Self-Awareness!

The first is Self-Awareness!

Transcendence
It is imperative that we become the main subject of our studies. To know thy self is to be CONSCIOUS and once conscious we have the power to CHOOSE!                                                We can not fix, heal, or change anything that we are not aware of! So we start at step one...🧡
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Pillar FOUR: Shadows

Pillar FOUR: Shadows

Transcendence
Now this one is interesting and can be a bit tricky because as we become more self-aware we are going to notice parts of ourselves that we might not like so much... An example is that I'm hella self-centered, to the point of having a hard time recognizing it because it is hardwired. I think of myself first in ALL situations! When I first became aware of this I wasn't trying to hear it or look at it for real. I wasn't ready! Before delving into shadow work it is imperative to have unshakable self-love so when we excavate parts of ourselves that we might be tempted to judge we can look upon those aspects from the lens of researcher. We are data collecting. Who are we when we are...…
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The third is: SELF-ACCEPTS!

The third is: SELF-ACCEPTS!

Transcendence
Self-acceptance is a deeper version of self-love. Self-love is eating right, meditation, working out, getting that facial, journaling, managing your time better, alladat! Self acceptance is knowing, understanding, and ACCEPTING that although avocados are a healthy fat, you hate them bishes and have finally accepted and will no longer force them upon yourself! But COCONUTS? Those you can do! You've accepted that sitting criss cross apple sauce and meditating for 30 mins ain't your jam, you've accepted it and now you do walking meditations! You've accepted that working out sounds like something close to waterboarding to you so you've released that expectation and now you swing around poles for fun! You've accepted the fact that you have hand in face disease and every time you go get a facial your…
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The second is Self-Love.

The second is Self-Love.

Transcendence
The second is Self-Love. You'd probably think that this would come first but often we don't even realize how UNLOVING we are to ourselves until be become conscious. UNTIL we become self-aware! Now that we are aware we can move into intentionally showing ourselves love through daily acts. It's not just mani, pedis, and massages. It is our inner dialogue... ...it is what we feed ourselves (physically, emotionally, and spiritually)... ...it is creating boundaries... ...It is saying YES to ourselves more often...                                                                              It is the things we often overlook. So now, step…
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Four Pillars of healing, aligning, and living a purpose filled life!

Four Pillars of healing, aligning, and living a purpose filled life!

Transcendence
There are four Pillars on which I've built my philosophy on healing, aligning, and living a purpose-filled life! These four Pillars allow us to reach a place where we have the ability to choose to... ...transition... ...transform... ...and TRANSCEND... ...anything that is preventing the unfolding of the life we want! The first is Self-Awareness! It is imperative that we become the main subject of our studies. To know thy self is to be CONSCIOUS and once conscious we have the power to CHOOSE!                                                We can not fix, heal, or change anything that we are not aware of! So we start at step one...🧡
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What does Self-Love mean to you?

What does Self-Love mean to you?

Transcendence
It's not just mani, pedis, and massages. It is our inner dialogue... ...it is what we feed ourselves (physically, emotionally, and spiritually)... ...it is creating boundaries... ...It is saying YES to ourselves more often... ...it is being unapologetically and authentically OURSELVES... ...it is willing to work on our weaknesses... ...it is getting help when needed... ...it is accepting support when offered... ...it is the things we often overlook...                                                                                    How have you been loving to yourself recently? 🧡
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Convicted by my own hypocrisy…

Convicted by my own hypocrisy…

Life Transitions/Life Purpose
How can I with power and authority lead others on a path to mental wellness when my own is in shambles? I can not.  My lack of self-care and inattention to my own well being while using other peoples struggles to distract me from my own has lead me to see my actions for what they were, hypocrisy. I can not in good faith ask others to do what I was unwilling to do myself.  I could no longer extol the benefits of self-affirmations, exercise, mindfulness, rest, meditation, and, fearlessness when I was gripped by fear and self-doubt. Fear had a hold.  Fear gave me permission to do nothing, to use my circumstances as a reason for complacency, to shrink my responsibility to myself and to you.  I retreated over and…
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Mental Illness Isn’t Sexy but it’s Real:  Lets Talk About It

Mental Illness Isn’t Sexy but it’s Real: Lets Talk About It

Life Transitions/Life Purpose
We have a problem.  A really big problem.  A problem that is difficult to talk about but easy to minimize.  A problem that is so insidious that some of us don't even acknowledge that there is a problem.  Or that some of us deem it "their problem".  Or we ridicule those who acknowledge, accept, and attempt to fix the problem.  And the problem is just getting worse. Mental Illness is real.  It is not a sign of weakness. A lack of faith.  A cry for attention.  An issue that we can afford to keep defunding and expect everything to be OK. The prevalence of mental illness is becoming more and more apparent as care is becoming more negligent.  Ignoring mental illness doesn't make it go away. Recently I have seen…
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F Balance, Be Intentional Instead!

F Balance, Be Intentional Instead!

Esteem, Life Transitions/Life Purpose
I fell hook, line, and sinker for the elusive goal of obtaining balance.  I even wrote a poem about it here.  But what is balance actually?  As I think more about my life and how it is in constant flux I become anxious for the need to get it all lined up just so.  I picture myself walking on a tight rope, focus honed in on the task at hand.  Unable to move left or right for fear of free falling.  Rigid in my movements.  The flexibility to adjust? Drastically limited.  And what I come away with is a life filled with restraint.  No room to breathe too deeply because I may throw off my weight distribution on the rope.  No freedom to take in my surroundings because a loss…
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