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Time Management…

Time Management…

Esteem, Trauma/Triggers/Coping
February 29.  The day that happens only once every 4 years and on this day I find myself reflecting on these first two months of 2016, what I have accomplished, and have yet to do. So as you reflect on your entry into 2016 be gentle with yourself but be honest.  Take stock of these past months.  Did you do everything you set out to do?  If you did how did you mange to do so?  If not, why not?  What hindered you?  What can you do to combat those obstacles?  Two months down, ten more to go!  How do you plan to live them? January and February have been whirlwinds of randomness for me.  I failed at intentionally going after my goals.  I didn't work out like i planned…
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Anchor

Anchor

Esteem, self-care, Trauma/Triggers/Coping
It's been a quiet month of January for me. It made me anxious that I had not posted. I felt compelled to force communication and every time I came here to post, it felt unauthentic, so I chose silence. And in that silence I remained true to myself. Often we do things not because we want to but because we feel we should. At times sacrificing to the point where we have nothing left, not even for ourselves. Does this sound familiar? Giving from a place which others do not replenish, leaving it empty? It is a wonderful thing to be caring. To want to help others, but not if it diminishes you. That way lies bitterness. Im not exempt from the lesson. It took me a while to get…
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It’s hard to heal what we conceal…

It’s hard to heal what we conceal…

Esteem
I came across an article in the Huffington Post that I thought was important to share, 11 habits f people with concealed depression. Feeling blue, a bit down, a little sad, in a funk; however you describe it, depression is real. Depression is especially prevalent around the holiday season, and even more so, it is concealed. In an effort to not be a "burden" or a "downer" people suppress their feelings, oping to put on a happy face as to not disturb the feel good vibes of those around them. Having battled depression on and off since I was a child, I have become quite adept at hiding my "blues" choosing to mask them with busyness. However, as I began to recognize the importance of my mental health and how…
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Resilient…

Resilient…

Esteem, Trauma/Triggers/Coping
We all go through things. It is what you do in the midst of a storm that highlights who you really are.  It is easy to be calm when the sun is shining, it is infinitely harder to retain that same fortitude when you are caught out in a downpour with no umbrella. Life can be a tumultuous tornado, wracking havoc on all of our plans. Laying waste to a foundation we thought was solid. Shining a spotlight on our vulnerability. In those moments when we find ourselves broken we become truly acquainted with our strength. We realize just how much we are capable of. We keep going. Sometimes smiling, sometimes crying, often both at the same time, we continue. Being broken doesn't equate to uselessness. It is an opportunity…
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Intentionally Happy…

Esteem
For the parents...(or anyone really) As I find myself becoming more and more overwhelmed with life, mentally tired, and struggling to focus on the positive, I decided that it would be beneficial to myself and to my kids for me to work on my mindset. I was thinking about how I can be more "present" in my children's lives. I come home from work and I often find myself looking for an escape route, a moment to just breathe. Taking for granted that I can "plugin" later. In a moment. Soon... Unfortunately with life being as it is, there may not be a soon. But there is now. So I came up with a seven-day chart to help my children and I celebrate the now and to be intentionally happy.…
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Illuminate your path so that others can find their way…

Illuminate your path so that others can find their way…

Trauma/Triggers/Coping
It is interesting for me when I write, because although I write for an audience, specifically clients and potential clients, I also write from a very real place,a personal place.  Nine times out of ten, the things I write about I have experienced personally in addition to working with others to get through it.  The same goes for the seasonal "blues". As the nights get longer and the days get colder, I often find my thoughts mirroring the vista outside my window; cold, gray, haunting, still, but full of potential and possibilities. As we embark on this holiday season I want us all to remember that the best way to help us out of our own "funk" is to bring joy to someone else. We often take for granted just how…
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It’s your choice. Choose wisely…

It’s your choice. Choose wisely…

Esteem
I'm still learning this and everyday I work harder to choose to be happy. Life is not always what we want it to be.  The world is so full of things we don't control, but one thing we definitely DO control is our mindset.  Yes it is easier to give in to circumstances.  To allow ourselves to become immersed in negativity.  It is okay to feel the feelings.  To acknowledge that things are not what we want them to be. But once we face our reality. Once we take stock and give name to our emotions, then what? Then there is a decision to be made. Happiness is a choice. When things are going every way but right, happiness can be a difficult choice to make, but we we still…
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I Am An Ally…

I Am An Ally…

Sex/Sexuality
Our society is not the most accepting of differences, whether that be race, ethnicity or religion.  Being uncomfortable in your own skin, not having a voice or an outlet to deal with ambiguity and uncertainty, can lead to unhealthy escapes; a breakdown in mental wellness. In a world where questions of sexuality and gender identification are becoming more prominent, we are faced with the need to offer safe places where people are comfortable exploring and understanding their truth. I have the honor of working with an amazing group of colleagues at Beverly Therapists. One of my colleagues, Bonn Wade, has created a free group for transgendered youth. Gendernauts will provide a place where the youth can feel secure in knowing that they will be met with support and empathy.  By…
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Check your gauge…

Check your gauge…

Trauma/Triggers/Coping
This spoke to me because I am guilty. There is no reward for over extending yourself. There is no glory in neglecting your own needs for the sake of saying yes to others. There is courage and wisdom in recognizing and honoring your limits. Imagine how much further you could go and how many more you could help if you occasionally did a self check to ascertain your own needs. Being self aware enough to stop to refuel takes a lot less time than having to stop for costly and timely repairs from running too long on E. Be sure to check your gauge. You are worthy of being holistically well... Yulinda Rock
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