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16Sep 2016 by Yulinda Renee No Comments

F Balance, Be Intentional Instead!

I fell hook, line, and sinker for the elusive goal of obtaining balance. I even wrote a poem about it here. But what is balance actually? As I think more about my life and how it is in constant flux I become anxious for the need to get it all lined up just so. I picture myself walking on a tight rope, focus honed in on the task at hand. Unable to move left or right for fear of free falling. Rigid in my movements. The flexibility to adjust? Drastically limited. And what I come away with is a life filled with restraint. No room to breathe too deeply because I may throw off my weight distribution on the rope. No freedom to take in my surroundings because a loss…

14Sep 2016 by Yulinda Renee No Comments

Wednesday Wisdom

Effective Communication, Life Transitions/Life Purpose

Being vulnerable does not make you a sucker. Asking for help does not make you weak. Engaging in therapy does not make you a heathen Accepting support does not make you a leech. Crying does not make you soft. Wanting comfort does not make you needy Missing someone does not make you clingy Being angry doesn't mean you're out of control Wanting to feel safe doesn't mean you're controlling Wanting the clamor inside your head to be quiet does not make you crazy. None of theses things are inherently negative. They are Human. You are Human. You have a right to feel however you feel. The goal is to become self aware. To use discernment so we are not victims of others or our own mismanaged emotions. Acknowledge them.…

29Aug 2016 by Yulinda Renee No Comments

Be an authority over your own thoughts: A hard conversation with myself

Life Transitions/Life Purpose

Woke up this morning and felt unsettled in my spirit. I found out something that made me start to question myself. It was causing feelings of bitterness and was disrupting my productivity. These thoughts were stealing my contentment. I tried to swallow down the frustration but it got stuck in my chest. I could feel it tightening. My head started to hurt and I felt my hands contracting into fist. I started asking the questions? Why not me? Why are things so difficult for me? Why must I always struggle? Where is my break? Why is everyone else prospering and I'm having such a hard time? And on and on. Then I stopped. I stopped and checked myself. Sure, life isn't fair, but my journey is my own and I…

23Aug 2016 by Yulinda Renee No Comments

Stress Management as a Family Unit

Trauma/Triggers/Coping

What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger: Dealing with stress in the family as a family. Strong families are beneficial to not only themselves but to the communities in which they reside; they are the building blocks of society. Unfortunately even the strongest family can be shaken by stress. However, the stress itself is not so much the problem but how it is dealt with. The mismanagement of stress can lead to fissures in the foundation of the family system. Effective communication is the best tool for a family to use to successfully navigate stressors, and often the most underutilized. People tend to deal with stress in silos. Opting to go it alone opposed to coming together to tackle it as a team; from the teen being bullied at school,…

08Aug 2016 by Yulinda Renee No Comments

Help for the helpers

Trauma/Triggers/Coping

On occasion I will share personal experiences in an effort to make of myself a mirror. To reflect back my struggles and my growth so that others don't feel alone. I help because I understand I understand because I've been there and I return there with the hopes of bringing someone else out with me... It's difficult being in the helping profession when you yourself are not on solid ground. I have experienced some trials and tribulations and as much as part of me wants to hold on to anger and bitterness, as much as I feel I have a right to these emotions; that they are some how righteous, I also know that clinging to them is hindering me. It is negatively effecting everything I do, from my business…

07Apr 2016 by Yulinda Renee 1 Comment

Balance…

Trauma/Triggers/Coping

Balance elusive yet desirable attainable but sacrifices must be made to reach the Bliss point where all things sit on their perch just so letting go of one to uplift the other sister mother lover friend in the end there is a give and take or in the wake of the tumultuous juggling will be broken things scattered at your feet So I repeat Balance desirable but hard to maintain one must refrain from doing too much or not Enough rebuffed by the pressure to do all to not let anything fall by the wayside Pride we must check respect your limitations by celebrating all that you do in lieu of perfection we honor intentions make sure yours are pure sacrifice all that you were In order to become the…

29Feb 2016 by Yulinda Renee 2 Comments

Time Management…

Esteem, Trauma/Triggers/Coping

February 29. The day that happens only once every 4 years and on this day I find myself reflecting on these first two months of 2016, what I have accomplished, and have yet to do. So as you reflect on your entry into 2016 be gentle with yourself but be honest. Take stock of these past months. Did you do everything you set out to do? If you did how did you mange to do so? If not, why not? What hindered you? What can you do to combat those obstacles? Two months down, ten more to go! How do you plan to live them? January and February have been whirlwinds of randomness for me. I failed at intentionally going after my goals. I didn't work out like i planned…