F Balance, Be Intentional Instead!

F Balance, Be Intentional Instead!

Esteem, Life Transitions/Life Purpose
I fell hook, line, and sinker for the elusive goal of obtaining balance.  I even wrote a poem about it here.  But what is balance actually?  As I think more about my life and how it is in constant flux I become anxious for the need to get it all lined up just so.  I picture myself walking on a tight rope, focus honed in on the task at hand.  Unable to move left or right for fear of free falling.  Rigid in my movements.  The flexibility to adjust? Drastically limited.  And what I come away with is a life filled with restraint.  No room to breathe too deeply because I may throw off my weight distribution on the rope.  No freedom to take in my surroundings because a loss…
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Wednesday Wisdom

Wednesday Wisdom

Effective Communication, Life Transitions/Life Purpose
Being vulnerable does not make you a sucker.   Asking for help does not make you weak. Engaging in therapy does not make you a heathen Accepting support does not make you a leech. Crying does not make you soft. Wanting comfort does not make you needy Missing someone does not make you clingy Being angry doesn't mean you're out of control Wanting to feel safe doesn't mean you're controlling Wanting the clamor inside your head to be quiet does not make you crazy. None of theses things are inherently negative.  They are Human. You are Human.  You have a right to feel however you feel.  The goal is to become self aware.  To use discernment so we are not victims of others or our own mismanaged emotions.  Acknowledge them.…
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Time Management…

Time Management…

Esteem, Trauma/Triggers/Coping
February 29.  The day that happens only once every 4 years and on this day I find myself reflecting on these first two months of 2016, what I have accomplished, and have yet to do. So as you reflect on your entry into 2016 be gentle with yourself but be honest.  Take stock of these past months.  Did you do everything you set out to do?  If you did how did you mange to do so?  If not, why not?  What hindered you?  What can you do to combat those obstacles?  Two months down, ten more to go!  How do you plan to live them? January and February have been whirlwinds of randomness for me.  I failed at intentionally going after my goals.  I didn't work out like i planned…
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A season of contemplation…

Esteem
As I sit here watching the leaves fall, contemplating the end of a season and the ushering in of the next; As the days shorten and darkness reaches across my yard while picking my kids up from school, I give stock to my life. Fall tends to be the season of thoughtfulness.  A beautiful lull as nature prepares for hibernation.  This is the perfect time to reflect.  Now is the time to look at ones accomplishments and goals and make plans. No New Year Resolutions but Now Determinations. As each leaf detaches itself and floats upon the breeze before settling upon the ground, I enumerate a goal achieved, an opportunity presented, a path yet trodden.  So I urge you, take hold of that leaf, a symbolism of opportunity, as it flutters…
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