F Balance, Be Intentional Instead!

F Balance, Be Intentional Instead!

Esteem, Life Transitions/Life Purpose
I fell hook, line, and sinker for the elusive goal of obtaining balance.  I even wrote a poem about it here.  But what is balance actually?  As I think more about my life and how it is in constant flux I become anxious for the need to get it all lined up just so.  I picture myself walking on a tight rope, focus honed in on the task at hand.  Unable to move left or right for fear of free falling.  Rigid in my movements.  The flexibility to adjust? Drastically limited.  And what I come away with is a life filled with restraint.  No room to breathe too deeply because I may throw off my weight distribution on the rope.  No freedom to take in my surroundings because a loss…
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Wednesday Wisdom

Wednesday Wisdom

Effective Communication, Life Transitions/Life Purpose
Being vulnerable does not make you a sucker.   Asking for help does not make you weak. Engaging in therapy does not make you a heathen Accepting support does not make you a leech. Crying does not make you soft. Wanting comfort does not make you needy Missing someone does not make you clingy Being angry doesn't mean you're out of control Wanting to feel safe doesn't mean you're controlling Wanting the clamor inside your head to be quiet does not make you crazy. None of theses things are inherently negative.  They are Human. You are Human.  You have a right to feel however you feel.  The goal is to become self aware.  To use discernment so we are not victims of others or our own mismanaged emotions.  Acknowledge them.…
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When they tell you to just pray…

When they tell you to just pray…

Trauma/Triggers/Coping
You can't pray away depression, or any mental illness. Some might find that statement offensive. But the reality is that many people, especially minorities, view therapy as an affront to God. "I don't need therapy, I just need to pray harder." Or maybe you can pray to be guided to a professional that can help you. Therapy is a tool to help achieve mental wellness, and should be seen as such. In my opinion, not utilizing the tools which can help us become more fully what we were created to be is much more of an affront. Prayer WITH WORK works. Seeking and going to counseling is doing the work, and you are worthy of it. You are meant to be holistically well. Yulinda Rock
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It’s your choice. Choose wisely…

It’s your choice. Choose wisely…

Esteem
I'm still learning this and everyday I work harder to choose to be happy. Life is not always what we want it to be.  The world is so full of things we don't control, but one thing we definitely DO control is our mindset.  Yes it is easier to give in to circumstances.  To allow ourselves to become immersed in negativity.  It is okay to feel the feelings.  To acknowledge that things are not what we want them to be. But once we face our reality. Once we take stock and give name to our emotions, then what? Then there is a decision to be made. Happiness is a choice. When things are going every way but right, happiness can be a difficult choice to make, but we we still…
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