Mental Illness Isn’t Sexy but it’s Real:  Lets Talk About It

Mental Illness Isn’t Sexy but it’s Real: Lets Talk About It

Life Transitions/Life Purpose
We have a problem.  A really big problem.  A problem that is difficult to talk about but easy to minimize.  A problem that is so insidious that some of us don't even acknowledge that there is a problem.  Or that some of us deem it "their problem".  Or we ridicule those who acknowledge, accept, and attempt to fix the problem.  And the problem is just getting worse. Mental Illness is real.  It is not a sign of weakness. A lack of faith.  A cry for attention.  An issue that we can afford to keep defunding and expect everything to be OK. The prevalence of mental illness is becoming more and more apparent as care is becoming more negligent.  Ignoring mental illness doesn't make it go away. Recently I have seen…
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F Balance, Be Intentional Instead!

F Balance, Be Intentional Instead!

Esteem, Life Transitions/Life Purpose
I fell hook, line, and sinker for the elusive goal of obtaining balance.  I even wrote a poem about it here.  But what is balance actually?  As I think more about my life and how it is in constant flux I become anxious for the need to get it all lined up just so.  I picture myself walking on a tight rope, focus honed in on the task at hand.  Unable to move left or right for fear of free falling.  Rigid in my movements.  The flexibility to adjust? Drastically limited.  And what I come away with is a life filled with restraint.  No room to breathe too deeply because I may throw off my weight distribution on the rope.  No freedom to take in my surroundings because a loss…
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Wednesday Wisdom

Wednesday Wisdom

Effective Communication, Life Transitions/Life Purpose
Being vulnerable does not make you a sucker.   Asking for help does not make you weak. Engaging in therapy does not make you a heathen Accepting support does not make you a leech. Crying does not make you soft. Wanting comfort does not make you needy Missing someone does not make you clingy Being angry doesn't mean you're out of control Wanting to feel safe doesn't mean you're controlling Wanting the clamor inside your head to be quiet does not make you crazy. None of theses things are inherently negative.  They are Human. You are Human.  You have a right to feel however you feel.  The goal is to become self aware.  To use discernment so we are not victims of others or our own mismanaged emotions.  Acknowledge them.…
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Be an authority over your own thoughts: A hard conversation with myself

Be an authority over your own thoughts: A hard conversation with myself

Life Transitions/Life Purpose
Woke up this morning and felt unsettled in my spirit.  I found out something that made me start to question myself.  It was causing feelings of bitterness and was disrupting my productivity.  These thoughts were stealing my contentment.  I tried to swallow down the frustration but it got stuck in my chest.  I could feel it tightening.  My head started to hurt and I felt my hands contracting into fist.  I started asking the questions? Why not me? Why are things so difficult for me? Why must I always struggle? Where is my break? Why is everyone else prospering and I'm having such a hard time? And on and on. Then I stopped. I stopped and checked myself.  Sure, life isn't fair, but my journey is my own and I…
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Stress Management as a Family Unit

Stress Management as a Family Unit

Trauma/Triggers/Coping
What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger: Dealing with stress in the family as a family. Strong families are beneficial to not only themselves but to the communities in which they reside; they are the building blocks of society.  Unfortunately even the strongest family can be shaken by stress.   However, the stress itself is not so much the problem but how it is dealt with.   The mismanagement of stress can lead to fissures in the foundation of the family system. Effective communication is the best tool for a family to use to successfully navigate stressors, and often the most underutilized.  People tend to deal with stress in silos.  Opting to go it alone opposed to coming together to tackle it as a team; from the teen being bullied at school,…
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Help for the helpers

Help for the helpers

Trauma/Triggers/Coping
On occasion I will share personal experiences in an effort to make of myself a mirror. To reflect back my struggles and my growth so that others don't feel alone. I help because I understand I understand because I've been there and I return there with the hopes of bringing someone else out with me... It's difficult being in the helping profession when you yourself are not on solid ground. I have experienced some trials and tribulations and as much as part of me wants to hold on to anger and bitterness, as much as I feel I have a right to these emotions; that they are some how righteous, I also know that clinging to them is hindering me. It is negatively effecting everything I do, from my business…
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National Minority Mental Health Awareness Month

National Minority Mental Health Awareness Month

Awareness Months
July is National Minority Mental Health Awareness Month. What I find interesting and sad is that I bet almost no one knew. As a matter of fact I didn't know until literally minutes ago. Minority mental health and mental health in general is often overlooked, undervalued, and overly minimized. With everything that's going on in the US and the world in general, I can't help but wonder how much of the Earth's pain is due to under-recognized, undiagnosed, and untreated mental illness. The constant barrage of anger, sadness, fear, frustration, rage, confusion, and despair on my personal Facebook timeline leaves me seething with indignation that mental illness is always sacrificed on the altar of budgets, consequences be damned. I've been dealing with my own fear which has led me to…
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Time Management…

Time Management…

Esteem, Trauma/Triggers/Coping
February 29.  The day that happens only once every 4 years and on this day I find myself reflecting on these first two months of 2016, what I have accomplished, and have yet to do. So as you reflect on your entry into 2016 be gentle with yourself but be honest.  Take stock of these past months.  Did you do everything you set out to do?  If you did how did you mange to do so?  If not, why not?  What hindered you?  What can you do to combat those obstacles?  Two months down, ten more to go!  How do you plan to live them? January and February have been whirlwinds of randomness for me.  I failed at intentionally going after my goals.  I didn't work out like i planned…
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Anchor

Anchor

Esteem, self-care, Trauma/Triggers/Coping
It's been a quiet month of January for me. It made me anxious that I had not posted. I felt compelled to force communication and every time I came here to post, it felt unauthentic, so I chose silence. And in that silence I remained true to myself. Often we do things not because we want to but because we feel we should. At times sacrificing to the point where we have nothing left, not even for ourselves. Does this sound familiar? Giving from a place which others do not replenish, leaving it empty? It is a wonderful thing to be caring. To want to help others, but not if it diminishes you. That way lies bitterness. Im not exempt from the lesson. It took me a while to get…
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Intentionally Happy…

Esteem
For the parents...(or anyone really) As I find myself becoming more and more overwhelmed with life, mentally tired, and struggling to focus on the positive, I decided that it would be beneficial to myself and to my kids for me to work on my mindset. I was thinking about how I can be more "present" in my children's lives. I come home from work and I often find myself looking for an escape route, a moment to just breathe. Taking for granted that I can "plugin" later. In a moment. Soon... Unfortunately with life being as it is, there may not be a soon. But there is now. So I came up with a seven-day chart to help my children and I celebrate the now and to be intentionally happy.…
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